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Making others feel comfortable and secure; not having to weigh each thought or measure every word, encourages the kind of open communication that characterizes great teams.
When you have emotional mastery, you're able to choose wisely between short-term comfort and long-term goals, between what you want now and what you want most. And developing your personal motivation gives you insight into motivating others.
Empathy
is the highest order of emotional intelligence!
When
you can see with the eyes of another, listen with the ears of another, and feel
with the heart of another, a whole new level of understanding and communication
opens up to you.
- Derived from an article titled “7 Ways You Can Unlock Your Hidden Emotional Intelligence” by Lolly Daskal
Being in control of your emotions and moods is a basic element of personable responsibility.
When you can regulate your responses, you avoid making bad decisions in the heat of the moment--and ultimately, you learn to regulate your state of mind.
- Derived from an article titled “7 Ways You Can Unlock Your Hidden Emotional Intelligence” by Lolly Daskal
Make
a deliberate daily effort to pay attention to your emotions and behaviors, your
actions and reactions.
Consider
how they affect you and those around you.
- Derived from an article titled “7 Ways
You Can Unlock Your Hidden Emotional Intelligence” by Lolly Daskal
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Napoleon Hill,
the renowned self-help author, interviewed some of the most successful
people in the United States decades ago. He found that almost without exception
the very successful people focus on helping others get what they want.
It
was that singular and fanatical focus on the customer that made these men and
women successful.
When people
only do their jobs because of the money; they usually lead poor lives.
Find
a way to make money helping other people get what they want and you’ll have
more business than you can handle.
If you are
employed by someone else. The quickest way to your promotion is to
follow the “ABH” rule — Always Be Helping!
If you are
looking for one word to summarize how the very successful think; it is humility. A truly humble person asks
questions, is of service, treats others with dignity, keeps his eye on the
ball, has patience and is willing to do the work.
Above all, a humble person values himself and all other humans equally. He respects his own gifts and those of others. As a result he is open to the utmost this life has to offer.
- Derived from an article titled “7 Ways Rich People Think Differently Than the Rest of Us” by Neal Frankle
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Small people
jump at the chance to criticize. They just love finding the flaws in other
people and can’t wait to shine the spotlight on those defects. They dig putting
others down. Of course there are successful people who are mean and nasty. But
they aren’t successful because they are usually alone and miserable.
Successful
People, the truly successful, do just the opposite. They seize every chance they
get to praise others and always work hard to soften any negative review. This
keeps alliances strong, builds teams and motivation. It excites others and
brings out the best in them. Everyone wins.
- Derived from an article titled “7 Ways Rich People Think Differently Than the Rest of Us” by Neal Frankle
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Successful
People continually ask themselves if their actions are bringing them closer to
or further away from their goals!
If they find
that they’re drifting, they correct their course and get back on track.
Less successful people rarely self-assess. As a result they tend to be unproductive!
- Derived from an article titled “7 Ways Rich People Think Differently Than the Rest of Us” by Neal Frankle
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Worthwhile goals take time to achieve.
Successful People
understand this and stay on track. Other people get frustrated when they don’t
get instant results and they move on.
Sadly, the
person who hops around like that is caught in perpetual start-up mode because
he’s always beginning something new and never gets to see the fruits of his
labour!
- Derived from an article titled “7 Ways Rich People Think Differently Than the Rest of Us” by Neal Frankle
People who stay stuck often give up before the
miracle arrives!
Successful People see the obstacles - of course
- but are willing to work hard to overcome them.
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You
don’t have to be a genius to ask the right questions.
You just can’t
be lazy. That’s because it takes work to get all the answers to the many
questions you have to ask in order to really understand a given situation.
It’s much
faster and easier to ask a few irrelevant questions and then steam ahead than
to sit down and really ask all the important questions.
Let’s say you
are thinking about a major decision. A quick approach might be to consider a
few superficial questions that just reinforce your preconceived notions. But a
“successful thinking” approach would include such tough questions as:
·
What do we really want?
·
Why do we want it?
·
What are all the alternatives?
·
What are the pros and cons to
each approach?
·
When do we want to have this in
place?
·
Why?
·
Is there another way to reach our
goals without doing this or at a lower cost?
·
What happens if we do this?
·
What happens if we don’t do this?
·
What other questions have we
forgotten to ask?
You can see which method is harder but leads to far better results. Successful folks aren’t afraid to ask the right questions and then do whatever it takes to get the answers.
- Derived from an article titled “7 Ways Rich People Think Differently Than the Rest of Us” by Neal Frankle
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People who have a a noticeable success and hold on to it realize they don’t have all the answers. As a
result, they are always on the lookout for new and better ways to do things.
Successful people
surround themselves with people who offer different approaches. They have mentors
and accountability partners. They are willing to consider ideas that conflict
with their current way of doing things. If the new approach is better, they
adapt. Their ego doesn’t get in the way of their intellect. When they are
wrong, they don’t fight it or take it personally.
Contrast that with people who think they have it down. Their mind tells them they have life mastered. As a result they can’t learn anything. Worse, they don’t see it when the universe says “no”. They stick to their antiquated approach and usually get run over by reality.
- Derived from an article titled “7 Ways Rich People Think Differently Than the Rest of Us” by Neal Frankle
In
order to lead, you need confidence in your own abilities. This is something
that Julius Caesar never seemed to lack.
This
is illustrated by one notable incident in the ancient Roman's life (involving
pirates, of all things). In his account of Caesar's life, Plutarch writes that,
as a young man, Julius Caesar was abducted by the pirates that swarmed the
Mediterranean Sea.
Livius.org
provides a translation of what happened next: "First, when the pirates
demanded a ransom of twenty talents, Julius Caesar burst out laughing. They did
not know, he said, who it was that they had captured, and he volunteered to pay
fifty."
Julius Caesar went on to promise the pirates that he'd personally kill them once he was free. After he was ransomed, he raised a fleet, hunted them down, and did just that.
- Derived from an article titled “7 Unforgettable Leadership Lessons from The Ancient Roman Conqueror Julius Caesar” by Áine Cain
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No matter how good things look, the best leaders never fail to
anticipate the worst outcomes.
In
his "Commentaries on the Gallic Wars," Julius Caesar writes:
"The immortal gods are wont to allow those persons whom they wish to
punish for their guilt sometimes a greater prosperity and longer impunity, in
order that they may suffer the more severely from a reverse of circumstances."
Basically, if you're on a winning streak, watch out.
Julius Caesar would have done well to actually follow this advice himself. Instead, he allowed a conspiracy to boil under him once he became dictator, resulting in his famous assassination!!
- Derived from an article titled “7 Unforgettable Leadership Lessons from The Ancient Roman Conqueror Julius Caesar” by Áine Cain
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Even
if you're a successful leader, you never want to get to the point where you
start to buy your own nonsense.
In
his chronicle of the Gallic Wars, Julius Caesar concludes that: "in
most cases men willingly believe what they wish" when describing a
tactical mistake on the part of his Gallic enemies.
The
best leaders behave rationally and don't allow their feelings or preconceived
notions to dominate their decision-making. Gut calls and instincts are
important too, but the best leaders utilize both — not one or the other.
- Derived from an article titled “7 Unforgettable Leadership Lessons from The Ancient Roman Conqueror Julius Caesar” by Áine Cain
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As
a general, Julius Caesar new that circumstances could change in an instant. According
to Bill Yonne's "Julius Caesar: Lessons in Leadership from the Great
Conqueror," Caesar once wrote that "in war, events of importance are
the result of trivial causes."
Resting on your laurels is never a good idea — because things can always take a turn for the worst.
- Derived from an article titled “7 Unforgettable Leadership Lessons from The Ancient Roman Conqueror Julius Caesar” by Áine Cain
Oftentimes, you've got to start out as a large fish in a small pond in order to succeed as a leader.
Julius Caesar understood this. He managed to climb back into a position of power, even after losing his inheritance in a coup as a young man.
According to the ancient Plutarch's "Parallel Lives," the general also made a rather curious remark while passing through a small village in the Alps: "I assure you I had rather be the first man here than the second man in Rome."
- Derived from an article titled “7 Unforgettable Leadership Lessons from The Ancient Roman Conqueror Julius Caesar” by Áine Cain
In
ancient Rome, crossing the Rubicon River with an army was kind of a big deal.
It was tantamount to a declaration of war and could be punishable by death.
When
Caesar crossed the Rubicon with his legion, he put everything on the line. In
"The Life of the Deified Julius," Suetonius writes that Caesar quoted
an Athenian playwright as he crossed the river, declaring "the die is
cast."
He risked it all and it paid off (in the short-term, at least).
- Derived from an article titled “7 Unforgettable Leadership Lessons from The Ancient Roman Conqueror Julius Caesar” by Áine Cain
The
best leaders don't just do amazing things — they know how to present a
compelling story.
After a relatively brief war with a certain Pharnacles II of Pontus, Julius Caesar had to sit down and write out a report to Rome detailing his conquest. According to both Greek biographer Plutarch and Roman historian Suetonius, the commander didn't go into too much detail, writing simply:
"I came, I saw, I conquered."
The phrase proved so catchy that we still remember it, centuries later.
- Derived
from an article titled “7 Unforgettable
Leadership Lessons from The Ancient Roman Conqueror Julius Caesar” by Áine
Cain
Those who are raised as neat freaks, have a mantra that says: “There is a place for
everything and everything
belongs in its place”. The television remote stays in the same spot, the pillows are strategically placed, and the countertops are void of dishes.
When you share your life with a
family, the opposite is true. The new mantra says: “A clean house doesn’t define you; it confines you”.
Embrace
the messiness. It comes with the territory and means you’re leading a busy,
fulfilling life—not a Stepford existence.
- Derived from an article titled “7 Thoughtful Ways to Stress Less” by Colette Carlson
The quickest way to gain downtime is to turn off the phone, TV and computer and enjoy the lack of distractions.
Many people feel anxious when their DVR is overloaded with recordings and they don’t have the time to watch their shows. Seriously, do you really need to know who’s getting kicked off the island or what has-been star can dance!!?
Some people say TV relaxes them, but I believe it’s more of a habit than a way to lower stress. TV just numbs you, and when the show’s over, your pressures resurface. Same with the computer.
Sure, it’s great to connect with old friends on Facebook, but do you really need to know what someone ate for dinner?
Rather than screen sucking, grab that unopened book from your shelf, call a good friend or grab a cup of your favorite beverage and reflect on your day.
- Derived from an article titled “7 Thoughtful Ways to Stress Less” by Colette Carlson
Are you turning down distractions disguised as
opportunities?
Are you being asked to join social sites that are
leaving you no time to network with the people under your roof?
Are you still knocking yourself out to host the annual Labor Day party when all you see is the labor ahead?
It’s not selfish to say no to others when the
intent is to clear some space to say yes to you.
Life does go on even if you aren’t involved in
every activity, party or event.
Look at it this way: Being missed makes you more interesting and appreciated when you do show up.
- Derived from an article titled “7 Thoughtful Ways to Stress Less” by Colette Carlson
When choosing a new doctor, dentist, hairdresser, whatever, find one as close to home as possible.
Bonus: with gas so expensive, think of the savings! The same holds true when finding activities for any family members—stay local.
Sure the ideal preschool, soccer club or SAT study group may be a longer commute, but add up all the drive time in advance and ask if it’s really worth it before committing to rush-hour jams and early alarm clocks.
Still determined? Set up carpools and recognize you don’t have to be at every activity. Sure it’s fun to participate, but your child will not turn into a serial killer if you miss a few games or performances.
- Derived from an article titled “7 Thoughtful Ways to Stress Less” by Colette Carlson
“I’ll sleep when I’m dead”, says stress lovers!
But the point is you will be dead sooner as a result. Exhaustion is not a badge of honor. Without sleep, you are worthless to yourself and those around you.
Staying up even one hour later to finish a task or watch Grey’s Anatomy costs you more than your health. Try irritability, trouble retaining information, minor illness, poor judgment, increased mistakes and even weight gain.
A Harvard Business Review study of 975 global managers determined that 45 percent of high-earning managers are too pooped to even speak to their spouse or partner after work. This is your wake-up call to get your ZZZ’s.
- Derived from an article titled “7 Thoughtful Ways to Stress Less” by Colette Carlson
Any perfectionists around here?
Stop wasting time creating the “perfect” proposal, letter or marketing brochure, seeking the ideal gift for your nephew, the best comforter for your bedroom, or the supremely clean house. Stop at 80% and move on to the next task.
Otherwise, hours of your life are wasted and nobody notices the difference but you.
Get over yourself and take a step closer to acceptance.
- Derived from an article titled “7 Thoughtful Ways to Stress Less” by Colette Carlson
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