No matter how big or legitimate your complaint, you can’t bring yourself to actually confront a person with your grievance!
What if they get mad? What if they come up with some complaints about you in return?
Instead, you live with the problem, and complain about your boss to your spouse, about your spouse to your friend, and about your friend to your sister, etc…
The reality: It can be hard to stand up for yourself, but doing so in a diplomatic way is more respectful to everyone involved than venting behind someone's back.
It’s also your best hope for bringing about real change.
Give the person a chance to make things better or explain.
You will both be better off for it.
- David Sack (Modified by Amr Badran)