Emotional Intelligence

Emotional Intelligence (or E.I.), put very simply, is your ability to acknowledge your own emotions, recognize emotions in others, and use that information to guide your behavior.

Developing your own E.I. can help you understand and improve your social interactions.

- The New York Times – “An Adult’s Guide to Social Skills, for Those Who Were Never Taught.”

Successful People Realize That "Good" Is Good Enough!

Any other recovering perfectionists out there!?

Stop wasting time creating the “perfect” proposal, letter or marketing brochure, seeking the ideal gift for your nephew, the best comforter for your bedroom, or the supremely clean house.  

Stop at 80% and move on to the next task. Otherwise, hours of your life are wasted and nobody notices the difference but you!

Get over yourself and take a step closer to acceptance.

“Done is better than perfect.”

– Mark Zuckerberg

- Derived from an article titled “7 Thoughtful Ways to Stress Less” by Colette Carlson

Successful People Give Up Daily Guilt!

Unfortunately, too many of us waste time feeling guilty that our life is out of balance, but you’ll never feel balanced as long as you have goals and dreams.

Why? There’s always way too much to do, to learn, to accomplish!

If you have passion for your work, it’s easy to lose yourself in your tasks and projects since they bring you joy. At a certain point, however, you have to consciously ditch work to spend time with friends and family (minus your phone).

Quit thinking you need to “touch” everything each day and look at how “balanced” your life is over a period of time, not a specific day of the week.

Take this one step farther and realize that it’s about being balanced over your lifetime. It all evens out.

- Derived from an article titled “7 Thoughtful Ways to Stress Less” by Colette Carlson

Successful People Accept Things, or Let Them Go!

With everything in our lives, whether positive or negative, we have two choices: to accept it or let it go.

Accepting it means accepting the negative source to the point where we can begin to move through it. It doesn’t mean we are committed to allowing the negative energy to remain in and influence our lives.

Accepting it means handling the challenge and creating change.

When negative energy surrounds us, it’s obvious that change is needed. That doesn’t mean change will immediately occur or solve the problem.

If the negativity persists, we may see that it has become a toxic cycle that no longer serves us, and have to come to terms with letting it go. In the end, we have to do what is right for us and our mental well-being and overall happiness.

It isn’t easy to let go of things that used to matter, yet when they aren’t serving our highest good anymore and possibly even harming us, what choice do we have?

Successful People "Do Not" Lose Focus!

Sometimes when hardships are coming at us from all directions, we have a hard time knowing what to do. It is so intense that it can paralyze us into inaction!

Instead of tackling the big ball of chaos all at once, try doing one small thing. Just one.

Doing one thing will crack open a space in the negativity and chaos for success and positivity to begin to shine.

This small success will begin to build, and your motivation to do more “things” will propel you to eliminating the effects of failure.

Successful People Show Themselves Compassion!

No matter how bad things get, remember that failure isn’t always about you! 

While you are responsible for all results, the burden of mistakes of others shouldn’t be carried on your shoulders. 

See the importance of this distinction, because if you can separate yourself from the wrongdoing of others, you can focus on getting to the heart of the matter logically, without allowing the emotion to latch onto you.

Successful People Accept Possibility and Release Expectations!

Successful people aren’t successful because bad things don’t happen to them, they are successful because they know how to handle the bad things better! 

Someone who is successful has similar challenges to those that are not successful.

The difference is that they release expectation of what might happen, and focus to create their best possible situation – no matter whether it ends up good or bad.

Knowing that life could deal you some good cards and some bad ones, and releasing expectation makes it easier to work through situations because you are ready to accept whatever happens.

The key is not dwell in situations where negative energy surrounds you, and take action right away to move back into a better position.

Successful People Surround Themselves with Positive People!

Every day we come in contact with a variety of different people. Some of these people make us happier, and others may have the opposite effect!

Who we allow to influence us is up to us and choosing to spend more time with positive people will help prevent a buildup of negative energy around us.